The artist and activist from Tel Aviv’s 3-song EP Sexile dives into the overwhelm of healing from past lovers while navigating personal feelings about the sex culture surrounding Millennials and Gen Z-ers.
Check out the words she shared with COLLiDE below:
Track 1: “Serious Issues”
“Serious Issues” is a poppy song about the confusion accompanying an unhealthy and unstable relationship, and so is the track, it comes and goes, it’s moody. It’s catchy.
Track 2: “Lovin’ Was Made for Two”
“Lovin’ Was Made For Two” is a modern soul ballad about unrequited love and it’s my favorite. I was inspired there by Louis Jordan’s ‘Is You Is Or Is You Ain’t my Baby.”
Track 3: “No One Can Help”
“No One Can Help” is a slow meditative track, it’s a bit dark but it is what it is or was what it was. I find it encouraging to me now, I CAN help myself, I’m in fact the only one who truly can.
On the overall themes of the album, Maxxie Most didn’t hold back. It’s clear that Sexile is both personal and exploratory for the artist. This comes with the territory when thinking about issues as intimate as relationships and sex. Most discusses these issues with such thought and poetic nature that the listener becomes enamored.
Most’s words on the whole project below:
Sexile in Most’s own words:
To me Sexile is sort of a temporary libido dive and a palate cleanser…
It’s a result of feeling so overwhelmingly broken down by a lover and life that you can’t imagine wanting to even get close to anyone for quite an extended period of time. I thought of this word outside of its usual college dorm context and personalized it since it perfectly summed up the time.
I was working on the EP in 2018-2019 along with musician O Mer. It was right after a traumatic breakup and my mother getting very ill, and I was just not having it. I think almost everybody goes through a sexile at some point in their lives, one way or another.
I think this topic is interesting because while it seems that hook up culture is booming and sex has somewhat turned into a cynical commodity, and perhaps more so during Covid-19, there’s the academic claim that Millennials and Z’s are actually having less sex than preceding generations. It might be true to some extent, and if so, I think it’s because we’re growing up much more aware and in touch with our emotions and we also have our fair share of digital distractions/substitutes, while academia focuses on longer work days, debts, etc. as main reasons.
I guess some people are not so inclined to use sex as a mechanism for escaping reality, feels, traumas and a sense of self but as a reminder of our humanity and physiology. It’s the motivation that counts.
I risk sounding like a prude here which i’m definitely not but, sex and intimacy are holy, misusing and abusing them many times just ends up depleting us from the joy and vitality that we initially craved when searching for them.
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Photos courtesy of Maxxie Most.